What are the values of an adult person?

Hi, my name is Marcel and I'm 25 Yrs Old.

I'd like to ask the smv brothers, what values should oneself have to be considered an adult?

My dad always said to me that an adult should be responsible, independent, compassionate, and honest

Through some of these days, my responsibility felt like crap, I almost always do pleasurable things, and abandon the important things.

Someone even said to my fiancee to think again about marrying me because he felt like I'm not mature yet, not an adult yet. Although I don't usually put much weight into what people said about me, this one makes me think, I'm currently in a self Instrospection mode, please suggest something that can help.

Thank You.

I think what makes you an adult is taking care of the responsibilities you have by yourself to the best of your abilities. It means doing something, anything, trying to be "independant."

So that means, usually, making money, and being responsible with that money. But among other things, it also means that adults are usually, more aware of their world (sometimes) and here to make a positive impact on it.

I dunno... I think adulthood means different things to different people but what I tried to explain is a part of it.

Hi Marcel, you've asked a very complex question there, everybody thinks differently when it comes to being mature. Your father is right, perhaps he should go more in detail

+Be responsable for the actions you take and for the obligations you have, like if you have a familly, you must provide for them, if you have a wife treat her right and love her
+ Be Independent, meaning THINK FOR YOURSELF, do things because you though them trough and you want them to do, don't depend for money, practically if you didn't know anybody you would still have all you need.
+ Be compasionate, meaning don't judge people too harsh, try to help them how you can, to make their life better, give something back
+Be honest with yourself and the people around you, you will get respect, but watch out for people that are interested to obtain benefits from you


+ Set high goals for yourself and take action, also improve daily

This is what i think so far right now
Best wishes

One word "Responsibility" says it all.

As teenagers, life was different. We didn't seriously worry about the impact of our actions and words and pretty much did and said as we pleased. As an adult, such uninhibited behaviour is a no-no. You have to weigh your actions carefully before deciding to go for it.

An adult doesn't do things merely because he finds them easier and pleasurable to do, but does things which he knows will be the right thing to do, even if he doesn't necessarily like them.

And if you are starting a family, then doing the right things is all the more important.

Creating a positive impact is more important at this stage, when you are just into adulthood. Be a solid dependable person, who cherishes his values. This will go a long way in gaining respect from others, which in turn will have its own impact on your personality. Whoever wants to be the butt of jokes? Or be labelled as undependable?