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Simple Success Formula

11:32 am in Self-Development by Artem-Iashin


SUCCESS = MOMENTUM x CONSISTENCY.

This formula works in every area of life.

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A Way to Success – Part I

1:04 am in Self-Development by admin

A Way to Success – Part I
Posted On 12/02/2008 23:16:24 by real

A Way to Success – Part I

Accept the responsibility for everything in your life.
Do not complain about your life; do not condemn people, world, circumstances. Do not become trapped within the victim mentality. Accept that everything in your life you have created yourself. If there is something in your life you do not like and have bad feelings about than change it. You are the only person who can make a change and you are surely capable of that. It is never too late for a change.

Accept the world and the people as they are, accept yourself as you are.
Do not judge the world and other people for their apparent imperfection. Do not try to change the world but understand that it exists the way it exists and there is a lot of beauty in it. Change the world by contribution, not because it is not perfect and need to be changed. Do not try to change other people if they do not match your ideals. Understand that your attitude to other people reflects your attitude to yourself. Do not judge yourself for being not perfect. Accept every aspect of your life as it is. To not judge means the same as to love unconditionally. Hence, love the world, people and, in first place, yourself unconditionally.

To change your life start working on yourself first.
Understand that the world you live in is not real in the conventional sense. It is not objective and it is surely not the same world another person lives in. You have made it up. Believing is seeing, not vice versa. The corner stone of the world you believe to be real is your belief system, which is essentially a set of interrelated beliefs. Everything in your life depends on your belief system. A belief is a free choice. For instance, if you believe that all people are friendly you will experience the truth of it in your reality. If you believe you are worthy you will tend to demand higher salary. The well known placebo effect is a further example. To change your life, start working on yourself by altering your beliefs. Throw away beliefs that disrupt you and install those that support you. Create a supportive belief system. Remember, you can believe what ever you want to believe.

Believe in yourself.
There is nothing you cannot have, be or experience. If you believe something you will experience it as true in your reality. Belief is a choice, it is a free decision. Believe that you are powerful and capable being. Believe that the whole universe supports you. Believe anything that support you. As Henry Ford used to say, whether you believe you can, or you can’t, you are right.

Live in faith, not in expectation.
Expectation is essentially a state of mind where you are passive and believe to know what is going to happen next in your life. In this mind state disappointment is pre-assigned, no matter if the outcome will match your expectation or not. Even if you have a positive expectation and the outcome matches it, you will come to believe that you can predict every step in your life and the life will become boring for you. In the majority of cases the life turns out to not match your expectation. On one hand it is a lesson that teaches you to get rid of expectations. On the other hand it is an approach to make your life more exciting. At all cost avoid all types of esoteric future prediction techniques like fortunetelling or horoscopes, because this will cause you to live in expectation. Live in faith instead. Your future is uncertain and you create it, you are pure potentiality. Do not try to decipher the way the universe will bring you what you have desired. Believe that all happens in your favor and everything will be in the right place at the right time when you need it.

Feel free to think for yourself.
Learn human psychology. Know how people can be manipulated. Be aware of mind control techniques. Learn what social conditioning is, how it works, and how it affects your life. Understand the positive and negative aspects of it. Identify how social conditioning limits you and free yourself from disruptive beliefs. Do not believe popular opinion or an opinion of a person who appears to know it better. Do not let repetition of an opinion make you believe it. Question everything. Dare to think for yourself.

Learn to listen.
Do not believe anyone but learn to listen and listen to learn. Learn how human communication works. No human can tell you the truth but only his truth, his personal view of things. Understand that everyone lives in his own unique personal reality. Besides, natural language is a very inefficient tool for communication and regularly produces unnoticed misunderstandings. Never trust blindly an opinion of a person based on academic degree, purported achievements, social status, and outer appearance. Do not only ask yourself what the person is telling but also why. Do not discredit a person or a whole book if some statement contradicts your beliefs, good ideas might still come.

Seek for continuous growth.
Personal growth is natural. Have fun learning new things and welcome changes. Explore your infinite potential. Achieve extraordinary results in every undertaking. Leave your comfort zone. Push the limits. Seek intentionally for opportunities and situations that will advance your growth. Try out a new job, travel around the globe, meet new people, learn your true nature, and the true nature of the world around you.

Never divert something from its intended use.
If you do, you will be chasing an illusion like a donkey chasing a carrot that is hanged in front of him. Do not go to work for money, get financial education instead; go to work for the sake of pleasure and to grow by learning new things. Do not make career to impress your friends or to meet expectations of your parents, do it for the pleasure of the process of making a career. Do not try to become rich, or attend yoga courses in order to meet a women of your dreams, learn how seduction works instead.

Know what you want, be a leader.
If you know what you want you inevitably become a leader; others become followers. Set your own goals and go for it. If you do not know what you want free yourself from disbelief and find to yourself. Know that the question is not if you can achieve it, because the answer is always yes, but if you desire to achieve it.

Be creative, not competitive.
Never compare yourself to others. Whatever you do, do it for your own pleasure, not to brag or to prove something or to be the best. Achievements based on competition do not last and are never satisfactory. Do not include competition into your goals; choose to be excellent but not better than others. As soon as you do it to outperform someone you act from a place of lack, you do not create but compete. Do not rush believing that you will miss the train both in metaphorical and literal senses. There is never a need for a rush unless you do it for the sake of pleasure from the process itself. Do it because you enjoy doing it; that is the very way of creation.

Enjoy every moment in life.
Do not confuse it with living for getting pleasure, since that implies that you do not have pleasure yet and thus act from a place of lack. Focus on positive things in life. Take note of things that do not seem to be positive, but do not focus on these. See challenges instead of problems. See opportunities instead of failures. Remember, everything in life happens in your favor. You live not to achieve, not to prove, because there is nothing to achieve or to prove, but to enjoy the life itself. The ultimate purpose of life is to enjoy every moment of it.

by admin

Development of my self development

12:31 am in Self-Development by admin

Development of my self development
Posted On 10/05/2008 15:49:45 by explorer

It’s two years now since I discovered personal development stuff (and almost one year I know about SMV). Now I’d like to share my experiences.
At that time I’ve been already self employed for one year. Before that – to be an employee – was a real pain for me. The reason I quit my job and started with an entrepreneurship was to get rid of the pain from being under control, to become free and to have money. As an employee I had only stress, and money just to pay the bills. It was very frustrating and depressing indeed plus getting worse day by day by playing games, watching films and doing similar time wasting activities.

With starting my own business things has changed. I somehow figured out where’s the free slot in the market and was successful from the beginning – in a sense that I was making 3 times more money than before. I had lot of customers but very uneffective production, so I was working 16 hours a day.

When there is a problem, your mind is looking for a solution, no matter what. The reason I found PD stuff was a bit complicated. My biggest problem was (and still is) a complete isolation from people. I didn’t socialize – at all. Therefore no friends, no girlfriends.

“How do I get some girlfriend??”
I tought the answer is in a social dynamics and pickup. You get social skills -> you get friends and girlfriend(s). However, studying and practicing all the pickup stuff for one year cut off some of my profits and brought me nowhere close to be skilled enough and to have changed my introvertial personality so I could be able to find someone.

“How do I get all the skills when I’m a self-slave?”
I was certainly unwilling to give up money. Without money it’d be impossible to reach most of my goals. I realized I must free up my time no matter how much effort will be needed.
There are many books, audio records and videos on PD I’ve read, listened to and seen ofcourse. Everything so exciting from the beginning. I recognized the highest priority in focusing on the most important things only.

“So how do I free up the time?”
Goal setting … There MUST be a clear vision of what you want. Without it you’re just wasting your time – moving anywhere the wind is blowing.
Planning … using brainstorming, mindmapping, prioritizing …
Focus … I do focus my attention only on things related to my goals and I’m learning how to master it. No multitasking anymore! And more power! – Thoughts must be focused like a laser beam, not like a flashing bulb light.
Elimination … from useless things in the office to the least profitable goods – anything unnecessary must be thrown away! There’s less distractions and more focus then.
Automatition … Any repetitive tasks has to be automated.
Delegate … Few weeks ago I hired my first assistant. She was best of 50 applicant’s. She’s working for me externaly – I delegate all tasks via GTD compliant system – TaskFreak – which I customized to my needs. It is just perfect! (I’ll probably write more about it and about impact of having an assistant later.)
In my opinion, delegation is the most important part. This step is inevitable for anyone who wanna have more time and more money – let other people do the work. (The best is to outsource it though.)

I can feel I’m on the right way now. All my energy focused on building THE SYSTEM where I will be just an owner. Once I have the system up and running, I’ll be able to focus on more important things – namely on changing my personality and getting social skills. It is quite worthless to have money but no life and no girlfriend.

I believe all self development comes just on time and some steps cannot be skipped. We only have to listen to ourselfs, to our feelings and real needs. The mind usually knows what to do (and it can be finding SMV for example ).

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

11:52 pm in Self-Development by viktorados

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.
Steve Jobs
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him’ They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5 deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something ‘ your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky ‘ I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation ‘ the Macintosh ‘ a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me ‘ I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today’ And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything ‘ all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma ‘ which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

by admin

A Way to Success

11:28 pm in Self-Development by admin

A Way to Success
Posted On 08/30/2008 16:01:28 by real

Accept the responsibility for everything in your life.
Do not complain about your life; do not condemn people, world, circumstances. Do not become trapped within the victim mentality. Accept that everything in your life you have created yourself. If there is something in your life you do not like and have bad feelings about than change it. You are the only person who can make a change and you are surely capable of that. It is never too late for a change.

Accept the world and the people as they are, accept yourself as you are.
Do not judge the world and other people for their apparent imperfection. Do not try to change the world but understand that it exists the way it exists and there is a lot of beauty in it. Change the world by contribution, not because it is not perfect and need to be changed. Do not try to change other people if they do not match your ideals. Understand that your attitude to other people reflects your attitude to yourself. Do not judge yourself for being not perfect. Accept every aspect of your life as it is. To not judge means the same as to love unconditionally. Hence, love the world, people and, in first place, yourself unconditionally.

To change your life start working on yourself first.
Understand that the world you live in is not real in the conventional sense. It is not objective and it is surely not the same world another person lives in. You have made it up. Believing is seeing, not vice versa. The corner stone of the world you believe to be real is your belief system, which is essentially a set of interrelated beliefs. Everything in your life depends on your belief system. A belief is a free choice. For instance, if you believe that all people are friendly you will experience the truth of it in your reality. If you believe you are worthy you will tend to demand higher salary. The well known placebo effect is a further example. To change your life, start working on yourself by altering your beliefs. Throw away beliefs that disrupt you and install those that support you. Create a supportive belief system. Remember, you can believe what ever you want to believe.

Believe in yourself.
There is nothing you cannot have, be or experience. If you believe something you will experience it as true in your reality. Belief is a choice, it is a free decision. Believe that you are powerful and capable being. Believe that the whole universe supports you. Believe anything that support you. As Henry Ford used to say, whether you believe you can, or you can’t, you are right.

Live in faith, not in expectation.
Expectation is essentially a state of mind where you are passive and believe to know what is going to happen next in your life. In this mind state disappointment is pre-assigned, no matter if the outcome will match your expectation or not. Even if you have a positive expectation and the outcome matches it, you will come to believe that you can predict every step in your life and the life will become boring for you. In the majority of cases the life turns out to not match your expectation. On one hand it is a lesson that teaches you to get rid of expectations. On the other hand it is an approach to make your life more exciting. At all cost avoid all types of esoteric future prediction techniques like fortunetelling or horoscopes, because this will cause you to live in expectation. Live in faith instead. Your future is uncertain and you create it, you are pure potentiality. Do not try to decipher the way the universe will bring you what you have desired. Believe that all happens in your favor and everything will be in the right place at the right time when you need it.

Feel free to think for yourself.
Learn human psychology. Know how people can be manipulated. Be aware of mind control techniques. Learn what social conditioning is, how it works, and how it affects your life. Understand the positive and negative aspects of it. Identify how social conditioning limits you and free yourself from disruptive beliefs. Do not believe popular opinion or an opinion of a person who appears to know it better. Do not let repetition of an opinion make you believe it. Question everything. Dare to think for yourself.

Learn to listen.
Do not believe anyone but learn to listen and listen to learn. Learn how human communication works. No human can tell you the truth but only his truth, his personal view of things. Understand that everyone lives in his own unique personal reality. Besides, natural language is a very inefficient tool for communication and regularly produces unnoticed misunderstandings. Never trust blindly an opinion of a person based on academic degree, purported achievements, social status, and outer appearance. Do not only ask yourself what the person is telling but also why. Do not discredit a person or a whole book if some statement contradicts your beliefs, good ideas might still come.

Seek for continuous growth.
Personal growth is natural. Have fun learning new things and welcome changes. Explore your infinite potential. Achieve extraordinary results in every undertaking. Leave your comfort zone. Push the limits. Seek intentionally for opportunities and situations that will advance your growth. Try out a new job, travel around the globe, meet new people, learn your true nature, and the true nature of the world around you.

Never divert something from its intended use.
If you do, you will be chasing an illusion like a donkey chasing a carrot that is hanged in front of him. Do not go to work for money, get financial education instead; go to work for the sake of pleasure and to grow by learning new things. Do not make career to impress your friends or to meet expectations of your parents, do it for the pleasure of the process of making a career. Do not try to become rich, or attend yoga courses in order to meet a women of your dreams, learn how seduction works instead.

Know what you want, be a leader.
If you know what you want you inevitably become a leader; others become followers. Set your own goals and go for it. If you do not know what you want free yourself from disbelief and find to yourself. Know that the question is not if you can achieve it, because the answer is always yes, but if you desire to achieve it.

Be creative, not competitive.
Never compare yourself to others. Whatever you do, do it for your own pleasure, not to brag or to prove something or to be the best. Achievements based on competition do not last and are never satisfactory. Do not include competition into your goals; choose to be excellent but not better than others. As soon as you do it to outperform someone you act from a place of lack, you do not create but compete. Do not rush believing that you will miss the train both in metaphorical and literal senses. There is never a need for a rush unless you do it for the sake of pleasure from the process itself. Do it because you enjoy doing it; that is the very way of creation.

Enjoy every moment in life.
Do not confuse it with living for getting pleasure, since that implies that you do not have pleasure yet and thus act from a place of lack. Focus on positive things in life. Take note of things that do not seem to be positive, but do not focus on these. See challenges instead of problems. See opportunities instead of failures. Remember, everything in life happens in your favor. You live not to achieve, not to prove, because there is nothing to achieve or to prove, but to enjoy the life itself. The ultimate purpose of life is to enjoy every moment of it.