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Do you want to know what other people think about you?

8:23 am in Self-Development by real

The observed and measured working of the human brain exhibits many mechanisms that are very similar to those from today’s computer technology. Some examples are signal procesing, compression, encoding, cache, memory.
The part of the human brain that is responsible for perception of reality based upon sensory input uses some sort of caching mechanism. This cache contains parts of the reality that have been percieved before but are not perceived now. If you open a door to another room, its content is saved in this cache. If you close the door, the room and its contents behind the door feel like they are still there. However, it is possible to flush that cache and even disable it.
Experiencing reality with disabled cache is very frightening and intimidating, because you become very conscious of the fact that things that you do not directly percieve do not exist in your reality. If you close the door to the room, it feels like it has disappeared and does not exist behind the door. You feel an urgent need to open the door and to check if the room still exists. Although you see the same room again, you conclude that it may have been exchanged by another room that is completely the same while the door was closed.
From this experience you understand much better why babies are so intimidated by reality, especially when they are left alone.
From this experience you also conclude that your assumptions of what people think of you are based on your own thoughts and assumptions. It makes much more sense to decide what you want them to think about you or let them think whatever they like and do not bother at all.

Blind Spots

11:23 am in Dating, Self-Development by Artem-Iashin

Few people can see themselves as they really are.
Let’s imagine a guy who every morning wakes up and scrutinizes over his collar and his tucked in shirt and other little details of his appearance. He gets nervous about how people will see him, think of him, and talk about him. But deep down, what he won’t acknowledge to himself is that nobody cares. He’s invisible. Nobody even notices him, let alone the details that he worries about.What if something happened that made him realize that he had been wasting all of his time and energy investing into a ritual that was completely meaningless?

He has a close female friend for whom he has a secret crush. Every weekend they get together, and he puts on his best cologne and cleans up his room… just in case.Someday he’s going to make a bold move. She always says that she wants friendship first. And she’s always complaining about how the guys that she dates don’t treat her right. But he would. He’s the nice guy she’s been waiting for.Tonight, they have a hot date. She’s been having boyfriend problems, and he’s the only one that she can trust to talk about it with. He takes her out and treats her to shopping and dinner, and then they go out for a few drinks. Then some random guy that neither of them ever met comes over and strikes up a conversation.

He tries to keep up with the conversation, but his girl seems to be focusing in on this new guy and filtering out everything he says. She doesn’t seem to hear him. So he buys this random new guy some drinks and laughs at all his jokes. The new guy even rewards him for this, by telling him how cool he is.A few minutes later his world collapses around him, as he watches his girl making out with this other guy. They come up for air every few minutes, to sip from the drinks that he bought them. And then she tells him, “I have to go home early, and this guy is friends with one of my friends and I’ve known him for a while and my house is on the way to his house so he’s going to drive me home. I’ll call you tomorrow. Thanks for everything, you are such a sweetheart.”
He has two possible interpretations in front of him.
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16 Ways To Take More Action. Part 2

2:39 pm in Self-Development by Artem-Iashin

8. Free Your Mind

Write Things Down – Free-up precious  brain power – get things out of your head (to-do’s, ideas, and goals) by writing them down.

9. Live The “Paint-by-Numbers” Lifestyle

Create And Use Checklists – for any process or sequence of actions you perform on a regular basis, take a little time to create a checklist for it and use it as needed.

10. Create Your Tomorrow’s

Plan Tomorrow Today – Every day, before you wrap up your work day, write down the 3 most important things you want to accomplish the next day. Put the list where you’ll see it in the next day.

11. Lost The Bag Of Bricks

Simplify Your Life – Reduce the number of things in your life that require your time to use or maintain. Choose quality (1 great magazine) over quantity (4 so-so magazines).

12. Feed Your Brain A Better Diet

Turn Off  TV Occasionally – Watching TV puts your brain in a mode that represents the total opposite of taking actions. Do it enough, and your brain could get stuck in that mode. Watch TV, but watch it with a purpose.

13. Have Some Fun

Remember To Have Fun – Add a little regular relaxation to your schedule and don’t feel guilty for doing it!

14. Maintain Your Action Machine

Drink More Water And Less Soda – each gulp you take of soda is like a thick, gooey, liquid being poured on a fire (your ability to think).

Throw Out Most Processed Foods – most of it is full of junk that slows you down.

Occasionally Take Several Deep Breaths – oxygen energizes your brain.

Exercise A Little – not a lot is necessary, but just enough to get your blood flowing.

Plan To Sleep Better – go to sleep and wake up at the same time everyday, and avoid anything before bed that stresses out your mind or your body (prime-time entertainment, the news, video games, etc.)

15. Build An Action Magnet

Dig For Plenty Of “Whys” – for motivation to do everything with passion, our brain need plenty of “whys”. Get into the habit of always discovering the whys for what you’re doing in your life. Dig deep, and dig with emotion!

16. Adopt A Game-Winning Strategy

Realize That Small Is Huge – just like a sports game that is won, 2 points at a time, every tiny bit of time (5,10,15 minutes) you spend doing something toward your goals, the closer you get to winning the game.

16 Ways To Take More Action. Part 1

9:09 pm in Self-Development by Artem-Iashin

1. Harness The Online Monster

Set Online Time-Limits – set aside specific amount of time each day (30 min., 1 hour etc.) to read all  news, Facebook, Twitter, digg, and stick to it!

Keep Your Momentum Going – quit checking for new emails and Twitter updates every 10 minutes –                   otherwise, the monster wins.


2. Learn To Love Your Inbox

Reply Quickly – if you can reply in less than 2 minutes- do it!

Keep Replies Short - Lose the “small talk” and get to the point.

Delete Old Emails – If you haven’t responded to an email in a month, delete it.


3. Keep Your Foot On The Gas

Eliminate Distractions –  turn off phones and instant messengers when working. Close your door. Distractions kill momentum.


4. Power Through Life

Focus On One Thing At A Time – Nothing is more powerful than focused, purposeful energy!


5. Get Addicted To Results

Always Finish The Job – just doing is not enough! Result only matters.


6. Soak-in The Big Picture

Keep Your To-Do List Visible – looking at your list regularly will help you stay clear of what you need to do in your life. Clarity = Power!


7. Make The ‘Yes’ In Your Head Louder

Declutter Regularly – a confused mind says “No!” Clutter is a major roadblock to action. Regularly clean your desk, office, house, and car of junk and things you no longer need or use.


The 3-step Timeboxing System

3:34 pm in Self-Development by Artem-Iashin

I strongly recommend to use this system, simple but very effective!