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POSITIVE MIND SET EQUALS SUCCESS

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POSITIVE MIND SET EQUALS SUCCESS

Post by johnny berba on Thu Nov 01, 2012 6:33 am

Approach Excitement


We can all relate. There you are walking down the street, you see that hot girl and you want to approach her, speak to her and hopefully get her number. But then a million and one excuses come up as to why it’s a bad idea. When I first started I suffered from such a level of anxiety that even the thought of asking an attractive woman for directions terrified me. Looking back now I realise that I was my own worst enemy. I now understand that I was rejecting myself and not the woman through my failure to approach. A lot of guys perceive rejection to mean, going over to a girl and not getting the response you hope for. In my opinion rejection is to not approach the hot girl!

So now I am sure you are thinking, how do I overcome this limiting emotion? Having gamed on the streets of London – With six years of direct street game experience which includes coaching scores of clients, helping them overcome this corrosive attitude, I feel that I am uniquely placed to offer a unique insight on this spectrum. Below I have listed a few basic rules that I recommend.

Rule number 1 – Getting in state – Being in the right mindset, warming up. I like to get into what I term the ‘Zen State.’ I class this as a state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind.

Rule number 2 – Starting Small – Set short term goals. Rome was not built in a day. Similarly you cannot expect to overcome years of negative thinking in one session/approach. We believe in setting small goals to give yourself a challenge during the day. This can be something as simple as approaching and complimenting five women.

Rule number 3 – There is no silver bullet – There is no set cure to overcome initial wariness about approaching random strangers. It is only through initiating interactions with a large number of women that you will get closer to controlling your emotions.

Rule number 4 – Being Decisive – Decisiveness is an essential aspect of manliness. No woman desires a man who cannot decide what he wants in a relationship.

Rule Number 5 – Accept Yourself. – This is a crucial aspect of what is termed as ‘inner game. ’There is nothing wrong in being afraid. It is a completely normal human emotion that every man has to deal with.

Rule Number 6 – Overthinking – A key aspect that leads to approach anxiety is overthinking. For example you see a hot girl and instead of automatically approaching her that little voice in your head says ‘I want to speak to her but….’. There are many ways where over thinking about women/dating limits you. In order to improve your chances of dating women there has to be a shift in your thought pattern

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Re: POSITIVE MIND SET EQUALS SUCCESS

Post by Janulkaaa on Fri Nov 30, 2012 12:21 pm

It was the man view. But I think that we can use your advices as well. It should be noted that sometimes women are in easier positions - eg. approaching man :) But in general I think that the key is in small steps. It is better and easier for you to do few smaller steps than the huge one. Why is it better? When you do the first step you can immidiately evaluate if it was good or no. If yes - keep doing. If no - stop and rethink. That is the huge point! You have a chance to change your strategy.
"Life´s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they´re supposed to help you discover who you are." Bernice Johnson Reagon

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Re: POSITIVE MIND SET EQUALS SUCCESS

Post by Westhedirector on Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:42 pm

Yes, I think you have some really solid points.

One of the best ways to overcome something that makes you anxious is to really just tackle it on head first. Expose yourself to that situation frequently and often. The more exposure, the more comfortable you will become.

Putting yourself out of your element can also be a great way to find out who you really are. Everything you do while you are out of it is entirely genuine and pure.
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Re: POSITIVE MIND SET EQUALS SUCCESS

Post by auburntree on Wed Jan 23, 2013 11:27 am

stay focused and compose yourself !
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