Pl help me relieve from Love Failure

Hi Pals,

I really don't know whether this is the right place to write. I had failed in my love that too in my first love, i couldn't tolerate it and bear it.

I am in a critical situation in my life. The next few weeks & months gonna be deciding my fate in my career, I am unable to concentrate on anything and couldn't prepare for the interview.

It wasn't her mistake and was mine, and moreover her family situation played a major role in our love life. Our love persisted only for 2 months and then came her ex-lover, disturbing her and he forcefully acquired my love and my dear.

I couldn't tolerate this though our love persisted only for 2 months, but our relationship was more than that. I still love her. I can't forget her. She promised that she will be my friend for ever.

Please guys help me get out of this, i beg from my deepest thing.


Thanks.

Hi kkvp1984 i neither know much about the girl nor you but i think you should let go affairs love relationships are k but if they distract u from ur goal i think its better they are forgotten maybe that girl was not worth u maybe theres someone better in store for you take it easy it was ur 'First' love that means there will be many more just forget her and concentrate on your goal if u do feel lonely try going on a date with some girls it will make u feel better and plz dont take life so seriously lifes just a game it depends on you how well u play it so treat it like a game and have fun instead of treating it like a punishment now cheer up and find some girl to go on a date with it will make u feel better

If you were born in 1984 as your nickname suggests then you're just ~25 years old.

Of course broken love always sucks but for how long it hurts is really somewhat under your control and depends on how you think about the situation.


She left you for her ex! That he "forcefully acquired her" is quite ridiculous, I bet he didn't bash her with a club and drag her back to his cave. She came back to him for one reason or another, perhaps she finds him more attractive, perhaps you were just the "bridge" partner that some girls seek because they don't wanna be alone in between relationships that they actually "really" desire.
Who knows what it was - but the right response to this is somewhere between: "Well we had a nice time, its bad that it ended after 2 months but watcha gonna do that's how most relationships end - let's move on" or "screw that bitch - came running back to her ex and ditched me like a chump."

I think the angry response might be a good option right now because anger can easily be transformed into "working" energy that you might need to climb your career ladder.

One of the worst responses might be the one you show right now - shes so sweet and innocent, then the big bad wolf came and took her and he destroyed your perfect love. That's nonsense and you'd better recognize this. She's a cunt, maybe a sweet and likable one but she ditched you so the right response is to go into the basement and punch that sandbag or sit down at the table and get to work off your anger. That's a masculine and appropriate response to your situation.
Not being angry is really not a good idea right now.


PS: At your age I'd recommend you continue "shopping around" for girls to collect more experience in love and life anyway.
If you ever want to marry then it should be a decision based on experience rather than just sticking with your first or third choice. She won't be the last girl that's physically attractive to you and once you get to know another girl more intimately you'll see that others are just as magnificent and perhaps quite more so.

Hi diakrk1 & Balance,

Thanks for your encouraging words. Yes I do realize this only is not the life. Yes there are more girls in this world, in my country, in my city. There are girls who look nice and cute (both in appearance & in character) than her.

As stated I have many things in life to achieve. Ill surely work on that. But I still feel sorry for her. Its her fate thats it I can't do anything for her.

God is great.

Many thnx.....