Need help with self confidence.

For some reason i don't understand why my face get red sometimes.. when i'm around many people that sometimes watching me or when im making a speech in class. I know that i have tell myself, i believe in myself, but i still get nervous. Maybe its all in my mind. Is there any books i should read, advice or tips anyone could give me, i would appreciate. Thanks.

Hi blueberry,dont get all red over this.......t

his is a common phenomenon due to negative suggestions since childhood.try not to think of a white elephant....what do you end up doing???thinking of a white elephant.So dont make negative statements in ur head..ull end up making them true.instead say positive statements like"im calm and composed for the presentation/lecture"etc....

2)Read psychocybernetics by maxwell maltz.....self esteem is what determines how much value you give urself in the presence of others.and if u value urself irrespective of the people around u or the "value" u give them(he is richer/smarter/beautiful etc than me...kind of value)...then u have a high self esteem.......cultivate the habit of attaching value to urself for no reason.ur born to do something special and only u know that......

all the best..let me know how it goes...

Thanks for your reply. I'm not sure what you mean the "white elephant". Yeah i will try to be a positive as possible.

"if u value urself irrespective of the people around u or the "value" u give them(he is richer/smarter/beautiful etc than me...kind of value)...then u have a high self esteem"
(You mean low self esteem?)*
Im not sure if im right but, i think everybody should get the same respect as everyone else. Even if the person is really famous, you dont have kiss his shoes because he really famous and do everything he ask's . He should get the same "value" anybody else.

I will read that book and let you know how it goes, thanks again.

Hi,
I completely understand what you are going through. It seems as if you are sabotaging your own moves to get closer to the relationships, jobs and the overall life you desire. Undoubtedly, an individual’s low sense of self-confidence acts as a hindrance in the various aspects of his/her life. Conversely, feeling better about oneself from the inside unlocks the door of mega opportunities, leading to a better and successful life.
A number of self help books and resources are available to assist you in improving your self confidence.