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I think i'm going to die alone

Post by supermedo on Thu May 21, 2009 7:58 pm

Well i have my family & my Colleagues but not real friends
i have problem since i was kid , I don't Socialize
The reason that i'm a different from others ((That what i think ))
I'm Not a Football fan
i don't even know why people get Very Excited for watching Football
& get angry & sad if there local team lost & even get into fights
I mean why my Emotions must be related to a football team & i think it is a stupid
is just funny to see FAT guy get high blood pressure because the player missed the ball
or even claim how they know Better about Football Tactics than Football players.

So that was a BIG disadvantage for me because in my country if you want to strike Successful converstaion through Football
all my friends in college always talk about Football or cars nothing else .

Nobody talk about books or Movies or anything else

The Second thing is that i'm not funny
Well i make old people laugh when i say some political joke but the youth in my age
Nope .
one of my friend have a bag like this
"See the attached image"
someone commented & said "Where is my Mails "
& they all burst of laughter
& i was just standing trying to see is that really So funny to make people Laugh out loud like this ??

The Third Problem :- nobody know anything about 3D Graphic, programming, Or Hardware or anything we can have a conversation about
they alone know how to use Facebook & chat.

The Fourth :- None of them have Goals or dreams to share
one i asked many of them why they joined in this college
There answers was :-
my dad say it is good .
My Grades in high school get me here.
My Friend deiced to enter it so i tagged along.


Oh MY GOD !!
the most common answer was

My Friend deiced to enter it so i tagged along.

How they let other people deiced there future ??

Seriously !!


the only year that i had Many Friends was in high school
you know what i did :
1-I started to track Football news & cars .
2-Talk more about s** & porn .
3-Subscribe in jokes channels
& it worked like charm
all what i have said : Did You see BMW Model XXXX Car ? ((i don't even know how the car looks like ))
& They all started talking for hours & hours .
& my phone was ringing all the day
they call me to hangout or go out for lunch or party
but yet i felt So uncomfortable , i started to give them false excuses
to run away from them & by time they stopped calling or asking

I feel better when i'm alone at him but my family "my brother & sister & my mom "
Always telling me to socialize
& it hurts more when you watch Show talk about friendship
& you hope to have that kind of friendship
i want to be myself & in the same time have great friends







:P Wow did i write all of this
& you managed to read it all ??


Well thank you for reading
writing this made me better
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Re: I think i'm going to die alone

Post by debcrow on Fri May 22, 2009 3:45 am

you get what you are focusing on... change your focus and you'll change your life
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Re: I think i'm going to die alone

Post by developing_success on Fri May 22, 2009 2:52 pm

Don't think like that, you just didn't found a friend with similar interests as you, there must be at least one in your town, a very good friend is better than a lot of friends you don't really have what to discuss with.

I was pretty lonely myself a few years ago, i too find football as fascinating as watching the paint dry :lol: . I have come to realise that it is not the sport itself but the feeling of this big connection with the people around you, it's like something that bonds relations, like war for instance, were your battle mates are true brothers.


You say you are not funny? You just need to be more open minded, see things from a different perspective, make funny connections, humor is great, it is healthy. I'm a pretty funny guy, when you are in that flow state your words just show up. Try not to be funny like a clown because it is not good for your image.

People have a pretty stressed life and they will use every opportunity to laugh to get rid of the stress, even if the joke isn't seen as funny. If people like you, they will laugh at all your jokes even if not all are good, for example i have a girl at school tha laughs at all my jokes, and always says that i'm so funny :D , when i say jokes i don't refer to "a guy walks in a bar..." but to life situations, interpreting what they said in a way that they will look like this :blink: then they will go like this :lol: .


How many people you think knows programming, it's like asking people "Do you love Math?" Not likely. The best way to talk about programing is over the internet or with teachers.


It's weird but a lot of people are happy with a mediocre job, they don't feel like actually doing something great with their life. They are willing to sacrifice 8 hours a day 5 days out of 7 for some money, in return they can watch tv and hang out with friends in the free time. We should be happy about this because if everyone would have goals and follow them, who will actually work? Robots you might say but they are not that advanced.



I think that every human being is a social creature, it is a basic need. How can you solve this? Get with some friends from time to time, the ones that come the closest to what you would expect and hang out from time to time and just have fun togheter (not the drink until your drunk type of fun :roll: ) but simply innocent fun.


I hope you manage to read all i said as well, and i also hope it helped. Feel free to ask me anything :wink:
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Re: I think i'm going to die alone

Post by supermedo on Sat May 23, 2009 11:37 am

debcrow:-
i know that & i'm not focusing on it
i choosed the title to grab some attention until now i'm fine with it

Don't think like that, you just didn't found a friend with similar interests as you, there must be at least one in your town, a very good friend is better than a lot of friends you don't really have what to discuss with.

I was pretty lonely myself a few years ago, i too find football as fascinating as watching the paint dry :lol: . I have come to realise that it is not the sport itself but the feeling of this big connection with the people around you, it's like something that bonds relations, like war for instance, were your battle mates are true brothers.

:lol: as watching the paint dry , i'm glad im not the only one who feel this
But you got a greet point in it
special when the team get a score you find people jumping from happiness & hugs anyone & you real feel the energy in there

You say you are not funny? You just need to be more open minded, see things from a different perspective, make funny connections, humor is great, it is healthy. I'm a pretty funny guy, when you are in that flow state your words just show up. Try not to be funny like a clown because it is not good for your image.

People have a pretty stressed life and they will use every opportunity to laugh to get rid of the stress, even if the joke isn't seen as funny. If people like you, they will laugh at all your jokes even if not all are good, for example i have a girl at school tha laughs at all my jokes, and always says that i'm so funny :D , when i say jokes i don't refer to "a guy walks in a bar..." but to life situations, interpreting what they said in a way that they will look like this :blink: then they will go like this :lol: .

Ouch i always heard steve chandler say to look to the problems from different prespective :? well it apply in jokes
i think i get the point .
If people like you, they will laugh at all your jokes even if not all are good

Yup you are right i found that true
My family & certain friends laugh it but some people not.

How many people you think knows programming, it's like asking people "Do you love Math?" Not likely. The best way to talk about programing is over the internet or with teachers.


:P I'm Into Graphic than programming does that Count :P
Well you are right in this
that why the forums exist
Because not everybody into self Developing too & that why i'm here with you good people

It's weird but a lot of people are happy with a mediocre job, they don't feel like actually doing something great with their life. They are willing to sacrifice 8 hours a day 5 days out of 7 for some money, in return they can watch tv and hang out with friends in the free time. We should be happy about this because if everyone would have goals and follow them, who will actually work? Robots you might say but they are not that advanced.

hmmm
Well Some doesn't give a shit about there life & others love the medicore
but what they did is very dangerous
what he is not into Banking or investment & hate the subjects then he fail
that will totally destroy his life or waste couple of years

I think that every human being is a social creature, it is a basic need. How can you solve this? Get with some friends from time to time, the ones that come the closest to what you would expect and hang out from time to time and just have fun togheter (not the drink until your drunk type of fun :roll: ) but simply innocent fun.


I hope you manage to read all i said as well, and i also hope it helped. Feel free to ask me anything :wink:

Well thank you
your post helped me very much
Well i must be happy at least they don't hate me & i can call them anytime to hang out.

Thanks dev_succes for the help
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Re: I think i'm going to die alone

Post by Inspired on Sun May 24, 2009 1:28 pm

supermedo, D_S has probably given you the answers. I would only like to add that to make people like you, follow some simple steps.

1. Be genuinely interested in what they say. In other words, be a good liistener. People like someone who listens earnestly.

2. Never talk ill of anybody behind their backs. It eventually gets to them and your relationships will be ruined.

3. Do some small acts to help them. In other words be known as a helpful guy. Everyone likes someone who is helpful.

4. Praise their actions to someone else. I don't mean you should flatter. Just tell someone else about the good work done, good academic performance, in general, be a harbinger of good news. This too will eventually reach them and they will love you for it. Please note again that this is not sycophancy. You are NOT expecting anything from those you praise, just spreading the word about their good performances.

Follow these steps and see the difference. I don't have any talents either and am not into any sports and have no interest in many things which people adore. But I still have a large circle of well wishers.

Good Luck!
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