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Are people hostile if you try to give success advice?

Post by Killionaire on Sat Jul 14, 2012 10:11 pm

Everywhere I go on the internet, on all the forums, I see many people complaining about the "bad economy" (which I don't believe in by the way) and they complain about how little money they make or that they're unemployed. Often they blame their failure on the "bad economy" or on something else other than themselves. After having studied success advice daily for 3 years and having it work for me, I was eager to share it with other people. So sometimes I'd try to tell people on various forums about success gurus and success advice. I would almost always get hostile, uninterested, disrespectful, dismissive responses. They are just not interested whatsoever. I was wondering, does this happen to you guys also?

On a forum for my business field, there was one female who was constantly complaining about her poor sales, which she blamed on the fulfillment company she worked with. I work with the same company and my sales have been excellent for years, due to my talents, abilities and my training in success knowledge. When I recommended studying success advice, she basically called it garbage and completely dismissed it out of hand. This is so common. It's very rare for anyone to accept what I say about success advice. I don't tell people about success gurus anymore.

It seems like these people don't really want a solution that they can implement themselves. They just want someone else to fix everything for them. They want someone else to fix the "economy." They want someone else to give them a job. They want some company to just give them better sales results, instead of changing their own strategies to improve their sales themselves. They want customers to buy their products regardless of the fact that these people refuse to do anything to try to cater to the customers' preferences, desires, psychology, and taste. No they don't want to change themselves. They want the world to change and make life great for them.

When I first discovered success advice, I was the opposite of these people. I was glad to find it and totally open to it. I think it was the greatest blessing I ever got. I got every success material I could find. I devoured all of it. I listened to it all day, every day. I stuck with it and kept faith in it even though it took two years for me to finally start succeeding. Now I'm living on my passive income and I can easily increase my level of passive income any time. I work only to increase my passive income, never for an hourly wage anymore. It's just disgusting that all these complainers on the internet want nothing to do with something that helped me so much and they treat me with so much hostility and contempt.
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Re: Are people hostile if you try to give success advice?

Post by Vamonos on Mon Aug 27, 2012 3:57 pm

Hey Killionaire,
I have had simmilar experience but nothing to worry about. It is just frustrating when you know you can help and people given advice turn you down etc. but hey! Is it not our mistake? I believe it is the way we communicate that makes this a "problem".

Let me tell you about the lady you wrote about. I believe that she was after significance (human needs psychology*). This was her primary, driving need. The way you presented her advice, she got insignifican't and what is the best way to get significance? Violence, acting defensive etc. Got my point?

People in general LOVE to complain, the bigger and worse their problem is , the more significant they feel. We also gain connection (connecting with yourself) when being in that state. Basically they don't want to change it and they are not looking for help but for sympathy - giving their power away.

Thank you for this post, since it gave me a little bit more clarity by pointing this out :)

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Re: Are people hostile if you try to give success advice?

Post by Elisagal on Thu Nov 29, 2012 10:54 am

Well, this has been a bad economy. That is the truth. I understand how you have decided not to buy into it to keep a positive winning attitude. But for you to tell someone sharing their economic suffering at this time that it is them not the economy? I can see why they'd be turned off by you. It is really insensitive to push your technique of ignoring the bad economy and issuing blame then and then giving them your advice. My sister did that to me when I was wanting support about how the economy has devastated my husband's business. She doesn't work and lives in another world..I thought her to be an insensitive idiot. (btw..her husband just lost his VP job..we'll see how she feels in a few months when his severance pay runs out).
Perhaps you need to speak from your own perspective: " I choose to not give into the idea of a bad economy, and I find I'm still making the money I need..." Turn it on yourself and about yourself...don't point fingers and advise.
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